Grief is perhaps one of the most complicated emotional states there exists as a human. It does not move along a linear path, according to the milestone book, or some clearly defined stage process. It shows up instead as shifting weather: some days, clear and manageable; others, stormy and overwhelming. And the truth is, both kinds of days are part of healing.
Many people expect grief to gradually lessen in a smooth, predictable way, but if you’ve ever experienced loss, you know that’s far from reality. You can have a day in which you feel grounded, even peaceful, and then wake up the next morning feeling as though the loss just happened all over again. This doesn’t mean you’re going backward. It means you’re human.
The Reality of Grief: Good Days and Hard Days
Here’s one of the more gentle truths about grieving:
You will have okay days, and you will have hard days, and both are allowed.
The okay days don’t erase your love or your loss. And the hard days don’t mean you’re failing at coping. Grief ebbs and flows because your heart is learning to carry something painful while still trying to keep moving forward.
The goal isn’t to be strong every day. It’s to honor where you are each day.
Learning to Channel Your Energy
When you’re in grief, it feels like your energy is scattered, heavy, or completely gone. There are days, especially, when you just feel weighed down by your own emotions and don’t really know how to move or what direction to go. Yet, in those moments, gently redirecting your energy just a little can help provide relief.
Not in a way that forces positivity or pretends everything is fine.
Not in a way that pressures you to “just move on.”
But in a way that lets you breathe again, even for a moment.
Some days, you just won’t feel like trying, and that is okay.
Other days, you may need to, even if you don’t feel like it at first.
What does “positive energy” really mean during grief?
People often misunderstand this idea: When you’re grieving, “positive energy” doesn’t mean to be cheerful or to push down your pain; it means to focus your emotional and spiritual energy on something that steadies you.
This might appear as:
Taking a short walk when your thoughts feel heavy
Sitting quietly with the music that soothes your heart.
Writing to release bottled-up feelings
Talking to someone who understands grief
Practicing deep breathing or doing a simple meditation
Creating something-a drawing, a poem, a memory keepsake
Returning to a hobby that gives your mind a break
These actions don’t make the grief go away, but they give it somewhere to go. They create small spaces where light can reach you again.
A Spiritual Affirmation for the Journey
Here’s a reminder for those days when it feels like too much:
“I honor the weight of what I feel, and I trust that light will find me again. Even on the hard days, my spirit knows the way forward.”
Let this affirmation be your guide through the emotional waves. It is not about denial from what hurts; it is about trusting that you will not be lost in it forever.
Giving Yourself Permission to Feel
Grief isn’t something to “fix.” It’s something to move through, slowly and honestly.
So permit yourself:
The okay days
The unexpectedly beautiful moments
The difficult days
The days when you need rest
The days when you need distraction
The days when you need support
The days when you don’t know what you need at all.
Each part of this journey matters. Each part belongs. In the end, healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It doesn’t mean the grief disappears. That means learning to live with love and loss side by side, and to find that your heart is indeed strong enough to hold both. You are doing the best you can. And that’s more than enough even on the hardest days.
Thee Juju Aura 